New Reminders: Correction vs. Criticism

A definition of correction is to resolve, fix or rectify an error and the definition of criticism is an expression of disapproval of someone or something based on perceived faults or mistakes.  They seem very similar, but are actually quite different when it comes to how each is perceived by a person being spoken to.  When we think it is our duty to help errant Christians see the folly of their ways, it can take the form of either correction or criticism.

Correction is what a good teacher will do to help students learn from their mistakes and to learn to spot their own errors, so that learning can progress in a positive direction.  Each teacher will use various tactics to gently guide the learner to improve their ability to avoid mistakes and feel rewarded when they get better and better at performing correctly. 

Jesus was appointed by God, and was accepted by his disciples, as the ultimate authority on all things having to do with how His followers should behave.  He used a variety of strategies to help his disciples learn appropriate ways to do things.  Leaders in the early church looked to the apostles to help them follow the lessons that Jesus taught, and his disciples followed.  The lessons were handed down through the generations.  Pastors who have studied God’s word are modern-day teachers in the church.  They also look to mature Christians in the church to help keep individuals and congregations on the right track. 

Those who decide to be self-appointed guardians of righteousness need to understand the difference between correcting and criticizing.  Confronting someone who has said or done something we consider deviant behavior and saying or imply something like “You are wrong!”  You are engaging in evil behavior!”.  The person on the receiving end will not correct his or her behavior.  They will simply become defensive and resent our arrogant criticism.  

The Bible tells us to use scripture for correction.  II Timothy 3:16 tells us that: “All Scripture is inspired by God and is useful to teach us what is true and to make us realize what is wrong in our lives.   1 Corinthians 16:14 reminds us to correct with love. “And do everything with love.”   Ephesians 4:2 reminds us to be understanding and gentle. “Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.

A kind and gentle approach that does not condemn, but gently points someone in the right direction, in a loving way, is likely to be more effective than critical words said in a shaming tone.  Gentle words are calming.  “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” Proverbs 15:1